Here’s how my 1:1 went last week.
Manager: How are things going?
Me: Well, I’ve been better. I can tell I’m about to cry. I’m going to be okay, but I’m feeling really overwhelmed and I feel safe with you so my emotions are coming to the surface….and then the tears started.
Lately I’ve been running a bit ragged trying to cover for multiple open positions on my team, do the job I was hired to do, manage the team, and hire multiple people. I hate having to say no when someone asks for something, but I was at my breaking point.
I had given so much for so many weeks, but felt like I could not get ahead. Each day I just continue to get further and further behind.
When I felt the frustration finally surfacing, I did not love it was happening with my manager, but I knew I needed to let it happen.
I sat there and cried for a few minutes. I did not apologize or try to make my manager feel comfortable. I just felt the overwhelm and exhaustion.
It probably only took about a minute of crying and it passed. My manager empathized and offer support and a healthy perspective I needed to hear. Once I was willing to just give in and feel all the overwhelm, it came and was gone in a matter of minutes.
The rest of the day was amazing. I felt better than I had in weeks. I’m still trying to hire people and cover for our open headcount, but I don’t feel as overwhelmed anymore. Learning to let your emotions come and being willing to experience them is how to start feeling better. Turing into them and not pushing the stress and anxiety further down make it less intense.
The next time you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and at your breaking point, just let it happen. Feel it. Don’t try to tell yourself it’s going to be okay. Just be not okay for a few minutes.
It’s okay, to not be okay.
This is what makes us human. Living a full spectrum of emotions is so much easier than trying to live on one side of that spectrum.
You got this.
If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed and nothing is helping, let’s jump on the phone and figure out what’s going on. Grab time on my calendar and let’s chat.