Implicit Bias

Protests are happening around the world. People are rightfully angry. Black people need support and to be amplified. Action needs to be taken to change policies, change systems, and hold people accountable.

But action needs to be taken be all of us daily. We need to learn. We need to grow. We need to do better.

An implicit bias is your unconscious attitude or stereotype towards something and we all have them. They come from your past. From your experiences. From what you consume.

But your implicit biases also drive implicit actions that don’t always align with the beliefs you want to have.

In this week’s episode, I talk about how to become more aware of your implicit beliefs and why I think is important now more than ever.

Test your implicit bias at www.implicit.harvard.edu.

Failing forward

We are taught in school that failing is bad. Getting a F means you are not meeting the bar. Failure feels horrible so we work hard to avoid it at all costs. But this is why you are a perfectionist. This is why you were an over achiever, but freak out when you can’t figure things out.

But what if failing was actually the secret to making it? What if learning to fail forward and mastering failure was the key to helping you confidently navigate your career?

In this week’s episode, you are going to learn how to stop failing flat and start failing forward.

What would you be willing to do if you were not worried about failing?

Who’s your mentor? Let me be your mentor and coach. I have just a few free calls left. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

8 reasons you should not hire a coach

You might be thinking that life coaching sounds fluffy and fake. I get it. I was right there with you.

What is life coaching?

What does a coach help you with?

Why would I higher one?

In this week’s episode you are going to learn answers to all of this as well as 8 reasons you should not hire a coach.

If you are thinking about hiring a coach, get the 6 questions to ask any coach to make sure you find the right one for you.  

Who’s your coach? Let me be your mentor and coach. I have just a few free calls left. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today

How to let people judge you

The first element of confidence is learning how to let people judge you.

Logically you understand you can’t control what people think about you, but we spend so much time trying to control their thoughts of us.

There are 3 types of judgment. Your judgment of others, other’s judgement of you, and your judgement of yourself.

On this episode you will learn how each type of judgement impacts letting people judge you.

It’s none of your business what other people think about you.

In this episode, the following are referenced:

The Model

           C – Circumstances

T – Thoughts

F – Feelings

A – Actions

R – Results

How to feel better episode

Who’s your mentor? Let me be your mentor and coach. I have just a few free calls left. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

How to confidently speak up in meetings

Many of us don’t speak up because we are worried about being judged or saying something stupid. But waiting to feel better before we say something might have you waiting until it’s too late.

The only way to get better at doing something is doing it, failing, learning, and then doing it again.

But in this week’s episode, we are going to address the 3 most common reasons we don’t speak up. You will learn what you can do today to start building that confidence.

Who’s your mentor? Let me be your mentor and coach. I have just a few free calls left. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

How to get promoted

Have you asked your manager about getting promoted, but been frustrated with the answer?

It’s probably because you want to know exactly how even though you logically understand there’s not guarantees.

In this week’s episode, you’re going to learn how to lead your promotion so it’s as good as done. Learn the 3 things ways to lead your promotion through without needing your manager to hold your hand every step of the way.

Who’s your mentor? Let me be your mentor and coach. I have just a few free calls left. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

How to deal with anxiety

I had my first anxiety attach when I was 28 and it came on fast and hard. Since then, I’ve learned better coopting tools to deal with the daily anxiety I feel.

In this week’s episode, you are going to learn how to deal with that constant hum of anxiety. It’s not anything you’ve heard before, but it works every time.

Practicing how to physically feel anxiety is how you embrace the suck. Doing this is what makes it less intense and allows you to go all in on reaching your goals.

If what you heard made sense to you and you want help applying it to your specific situation, I have a few spots still open on my calendar to help. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

 

When there’s no end in sight – Episode 7

Most of us have started to ask, when is this going to be over, or when can we go back to normal. The problem is, no one knows this answer and asking it causes you to spin in a constant loop creating unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Trying to power your way through only lasts for so long.

If you want to stop feeling hurried, annoyed, and anxiety over the unknown future, you have to start acting like an emotional adult.

In this week’s episode, you are going to learn how to stop trying to power through and start feeling better even though we don’t know what the future holds. Focusing on today, what you can control, and how things are still the same can make all the difference.

If what you heard made sense to you and you want help applying it to your specific situation, I have a few spots still open on my calendar to help. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

 

How to be okay when it’s not okay – Episode 6

I once had my position eliminated and I knew logically I would figure something out, but emotionally I as angry and stressed. Nothing anyone said made me feel any better.

When we are really struggling with things, there’s a more effective way to deal with it than trying to positive through your way through it.

In this week’s episode, you are going to learn how to stop feeling so annoyed, anxious, and frustrated when life is not going the way you want.  Like when you don’t get the job or don’t get the promotion or feel like you can’t ever get ahead and have some work life balance.

You don’t actually want to feel good about these things and that’s okay. Learning how to literally feel your emotions or disappointment, or stress, or annoyance is the secret to feeling better.

Knowing how to feel your emotions takes practice, but it’s the secret to feeling better. When you stop trying to resist them and just work your way through them, they go away and you can move past them.

If what you heard made sense, I have a limited number of free coaching spots each week to help you apply this to your specific situation. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.

Killer Confidence – Episode 5

Confidence is not something you are born with. It’s something you have to learn and practice. Confidence comes when you have done something so many times you know how to handle what ever gets thrown at you. Self-confidence comes from trusting in your ability to figure it out.

Learning to let people judge you, being willing to fail forward, and trusting yourself along the way are the three main elements to being more confident.

In this week’s episode, you are going to learn the 3 ways to start being more confident today so that you can get promoted, land your dream job, and deal with the constant changes at work.

If what you heard made sense to you and you want help applying it to your specific situation, I have a few spots still open on my calendar to help. Grab some time on my calendar and let’s come up with a plan to get you feeling more confident today.