Insider Training

Listen in today and I share some of the most popular emails from the Insider Training series. Each week I send out short bits of info to help get you through the week through the Insider Training email series. Make sure you get them weekly by requesting access to the free course on my homepage. https://lindsaybuchancoaching.com/ Listen in to learn more.

 

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Failure

Anyone who is successful and reaching their goals is sitting on a huge pile of failures. We seem to get this intellectually, but when it comes to actually being willing to fail at something, it’s a no.

Your brain is trying to protect you from failing so of course we are not excited and pushing to fail. But if we want to learn and figure out how to be successful, we have to figure out how to fail. When your desire to succeed is greater than your desire to not fail, that’s when the magic happens.

This week, we are diving into why failure is important, what most of us end up doing instead and what the true meaning of failure is. Make sure to subscribe because next week you are going to learn the step by step process to fail forward and fail fast. List and learn. 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What the true definition of failure is
  • What most of us do when fail at something a few times
  • When failure becomes a problem
  • Why failure is required to have true success

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Insecure Overachievers

On average, do you work less than 50 hours a week? Are you satisfied with your success at work? Do you like your work/life balance? Are you confident you are not close to burnout at work?

If you answered no to any of these questions, this episode is for you.

We no longer work a 40 hour work week from 9-5. We are globally connected 24 hours and work with people around the world. Our “working hours” are fluid and all over the place.

It’s easy to overachieve and work crazy hours to be the top performer. Companies look for this in candidates. They even reward overachievers with promotions and more money. But if the reason why you are overachieving is to prove your worth, it’s an uphill battle.

Tune in this week and learn how stay driven and work hard, but not overachieve at the expense of your sanity. Burnout is easy to get to, but hard to walk backwards from. Listen and learn how.

 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Where the 40 hours a week, 9-5 schedule originated from
  • How overachieving is encouraged and rewarded at work
  • Why overachieving can lead to burnout
  • How to not be an insecure overachiever

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Stop being defensive with these 3 words

Think about the last time you were really upset and defensive about something at work that clearly was not right. We’ve all had these moments. They also tend to be when we are not at our best.

I’ve yet to see anyone show up as their best when they are feeling defensive. In sports, the defensive players are there to stop the opposing team. The same thing happens at work. When we’re defensive, we’re no longer working as a team and trying to reach the end goal together. Are a just made and feeling very justified in feeling that way.

But the thing is, there’s not upside to being defensive at work. It just slows you down. It slows down your listening abilities. It slows down creative ideas to solve the issue. And it slows down your growth as a leader.

In this episode you are going to learn the 3-word phrase to stop getting defensive. Every time you say it, it opens up the issue and helps to quickly find a solution. Not saying it just makes your work unnecessarily harder. Listen and learn what this powerful 3-word phrase is.

 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why we all get defensive
  • Why it can sometimes be a problem for us at work
  • The most powerful 3-word phrase that shuts down feeling defensive
  • How to apply it in real life

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How vs. What

Take a minute and think about what you really want. Like really big want. What happens when you think about it?

If you are like every other person, you probably got excited and then distracted. Because when your brain can’t figure out HOW to get there, it shuts down and moves to a problem it can solve.

The way to overcome this is to focus more on the “what” and less on the “how.” This not only works with your personal goals, but it also is the key to stakeholder alignment, project prioritization, and moving faster at work. List and learn how.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why your naturally focus on how to do something
  • Why focusing on the “what” is more important
  • How the “what” enables you to move forward faster
  • Real life examples of focusing on the “what” and not the “how”

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Healthy Pressure

There are times where the idea of being board at work feels like a dream. It sounds so appealing to have nothing to do. The stress and overwhelm from feeling constantly behind can really get to you.

But pressure can be a good thing. There’s a fine line between healthy pressure that motivates you to move forward and the pressure that overwhelms you. The trick is learning to know when you are in over your head.

This week we dive into what healthy pressure looks like and warning signs leaders should look for in the team.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why being board at work is actually not what we want
  • What heathy pressure looks like and how it motivates us
  • Warning signs that pressure is too much
  • How to get back to motivational pressure when you are overwhelmed

Mentioned on the show:

  • Ready to get some free 1:1 help? I offer a limited number of free coaching calls each week. Grab time on my calendar and let’s get you feeling more confident today.
  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.

How to mentally disconnect from work at the end of the day

Most people have a hard time mentally shifting from work mode to life mode and staying there all evening. We constantly stress and worry about work, which makes us not get the rest we need in our down time. Then we feel even more stressed because we are tired and worn out

Psychological detachment from work has been researched and found that if you don’t give your brain time to rest, it negatively impacts your ability to work. Just like your body needs physical rest, your brain needs emotional rest.

Learning to let the parts of your brain that process information have some down time means you need to know how to engage other areas of your brain. And learn to do this means you don’t have to go on vacation or travel to locations without the internet to truly disconnect.  

Tune in this week and learn how really allow yourself to not think about work all night long. It’s easier than you think.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What psychological detachment from work is
  • Why it’s crucial to your career success
  • How to detach from work daily
  • What impact it has on your brain and your emotional health

Mentioned on the show:

  • Ready to get some free 1:1 help? I offer a limited number of free coaching calls each week. Grab time on my calendar and let’s get you feeling more confident today.
  • Research about psychological detachment from work
  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.

Conflict management

At work, conflict usually happens when we are not aligned on expectations or we are not holding people accountable. Learning effecting conflict management is a key skill every leader needs because we are human and will have conflict.

But most of us are going about conflict resolution all wrong. We try to get the other person to see our side and agree when us. Or we try to control how they feel. But this does not work and often it leads to both of us leaving feeling defensive and frustrated.

In this week’s episode, we talk about 4 ways to have better conflict management. It’s important to remember that we don’t always want to feel good. The other person does not always want to feel good. And that’s okay. But when you apply any of these 4 approaching, you will keep moving things forward.

Tune in this week and learn how to better manage conflicts at work.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What is conflict management
  • How we all go about conflict management all wrong
  • 4 better ways to approach conflict management
  • Real life examples applying each approach

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  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.

11 ways to boost your self esteem today

Unless you are a robot, your self esteem goes up and down at times. But when you like yourself, the hard parts of life are so much easier to deal with. But when was the last time you actively tried to work on improving yourself esteem.

The first step is learning to become aware of where you are at. If you don’t know where you are starting, it’s hard to know what to work on and change to get where you want to go. Next, it’s important to get clear on where you believe your value comes from. Because if you don’t think you are worth it, it’s harder to move forward. Next you’ve got to learn to separate out the data from the drama to accept what is. Then we are ready to get to work.  

Tune in this week as we dive into the 11 things you can start doing right away to put all of this into practice and start boosting your self esteem today. Listen and learn.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What really is a healthy self esteem
  • The steps to boosting your self esteem

11 ways to put these steps into practice today

  • How to practice being nicer to yourself

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Accept what is (Self esteem STEP 3)

When you lose your keys and are running late to an appointment, most of us tend to freak out and run around like a crazy person, tearing through the house trying to find them. At some point we accept they are missing and find a different way to get there or reschedule. Once you have calmed down and admitted the keys are gone, this is the point you have accepted what is. It’s also the point where you start to find a solution that does not requiring cleaning up the house you tore apart.

When we learn to accept what is, it gives us the ability to stop making it harder on ourselves and start looking towards solutions. Accepting what is, is not agreeing with, liking it, or giving up. It’s dropping the panic and overwhelm and moving to problem solving mode.

Accepting what is also means learning to accept who you are, exactly as you are, right now. When you stop shoulding on yourself and telling yourself it will be better when, things get better in the moment. You also start to change what you want because you like you, not because you can’t like yourself until you change.

The faster you can learn to accept things, the faster you can change what you want.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What accepting what is, is
  • What accepting what is, is not
  • Why it’s important to accept what is to boost your self esteem
  • How to accept what is

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