How to push back

Do you get frustrated when stakeholders keep slowing down your project because they push back on everything? Are you on the end of losing it because your leaders keep asking for random requests last minute?

This week I’m teaching you one of my most powerful and easiest tricks in the books. Using this tool will help you push back in a way that builds trust while maintaining balance.

The goal is to say yes and… When you do this, it shows you’re on their side, willing to help, and removes any resistance. It also opens a conversation to align on how you are prioritizing it or how you are going to approach it before you get started.

It’s a simple tool, but the application is endless.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why people get defensive when you push back
  • How to pushback without adding needed to work more hours
  • Why it’s so effective
  • How it works in real examples

Mentioned on the show:

Helpful vs hurtful pain

A few years ago, I got a call out of the blue telling me my position was being eliminated.

I was angry because how it went down was so not fair. I was also worried because I had just moved across the state with my family and did not want to have to find a new company to work for.

They say the only way past something is through, but how do you do that when what you are dealing with is really hard? This week you will learn how to do that.

Being mad and frustrated can be a healthy part of the process. You have to grieve and feel bad before you can feel better. But there’s a lot of negative emotion we feel that’s not helpful.

Healing pain helps you grow, focuses on the future and comes from love. Hurtful pain comes from fear and resentment about what happened. Learning to allow the healing pain and minimize the hurtful pain is how you get through it

Tune in this week and learn how to get through difficult situations without coming out if angry and doubting yourself. 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • What makes a negative emotion helpful and healing
  • What makes a negative emotion hurtful
  • How to deal with difficult situations without feeling more angry and down on yourself.

Mentioned on the show:

  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.
  • Ready to get some free 1:1 help? I offer a limited number of free coaching calls each week. Grab time on my calendar and let’s get you feeling more confident today.

Emotional exhaustion

Feeling tired because you worked hard, stayed on track, got lots of things done, and had fun along the way feels amazing. Feeling tired because you stressed and worried all day and feel like you are still behind is exhausting.

There are two main reasons we feel emotionally exhausted. The first is spending emotion energy wishing things were different. The second reason is we think things will be better when _____ (fill in the blank) changes.   

But this is the reason we feel exhausted is because of how you are thinking about your situation. This is great news because you can choose how to think about it, but listen and learn how to do it.  

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why you feel emotionally exhausted
  • How wishing things were different is a root cause of emotional exhaustion
  • How thinking things will get better when they are different is an emotionally exhausting trap
  • How to stop feeling so exhausted and move forward

Mentioned on the show:

Feeling nervous around senior leaders

Are you tired of feeling nervous around Senior leaders? You get that logically they have more years of experience and you are not expected to be as good as they are, but emotionally you just can’t get past it?

Good news. You’re human. But even better news, feeling nervous has nothing to do with how senior you or the other people are in the room. It has everything to do with how you are looking at it and what you are making it mean.

But everyone’s just making it up. Some have been doing it for more years than you, but everyone is making it up.

Tune in this week and learn how stop feeling so nervous around senior leaders.  

 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why we feel nervous
  • What we make it mean that others have more years of experience than we do
  • Why the number of years you’ve been in your position is not what’s making you feeling nervous
  • How to feel more confident

Mentioned on the show:

  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.
  • Ready to get some free 1:1 help? I offer a limited number of free coaching calls each week. Grab time on my calendar and let’s get you feeling more confident today.

What to do when you can’t keep up

Are you struggling to feel like you can keep up? Is your to do list growing and you feel like you can’t keep juggling it all?

When you are trying to juggle it all, you have to evaluate which things are rubber and which things are glass. You can let the rubber balls fall because they will bounce back up. Then you have time to focus on the glass ones.  

Even better, you can start evaluating everything on your plate and stop telling yourself you need to do it all. Learning to trust yourself, your relationships, and your past work makes it so much easier to stop trying to do it all.

Because, you can do anything, you just can’t do everything. Tune in this week and learn how to juggle it all.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • How to look at 5 areas of your life and decide which things you are willing to let drop and which things you want to focus on.
  • How to stop adding more to your plate so you don’t feel so overwhelmed.
  • How to trust yourself, your relationships, and your past work to be willing to step back when needed.

Mentioned on the show:

  • Get the How to confidently speak up in meetings free online course. In this 10 minute video training, you’re going to learn 3 ways to start speaking up today.
  • Ready to get some free 1:1 help? I offer a limited number of free coaching calls each week. Grab time on my calendar and let’s get you feeling more confident today.